The Science of Awkwardness
Do you remember watching television with your parents and a nude scene hits the screen?
What would you do? And why?
Act As if you got a phone call?
Try to dive into your phone immediately and pretend to text somebody?
Just try to play with your pet?
Simply change the channel?
We feel uncomfortable embarrassed or self-conscious in a social situation. Why does this happen?
So let’s discover this social rule related to our behavior.
The actions mentioned above are some examples of flight response resulting in the defense mechanism that plays a significant role in how we deal with uncomfortable situations.
Is this real awkwardness?
At many times in our lives, we all have had a similar situation to face.
Telling someone a funny story and realizing that they were the one who told it to you,
Grabbing a pole on a bus station but then holding someone else’s hand.
However, when we experience certain uncomfortable situations our response is settled on two principles.
The first is the defense mechanism and the second is the
feeling of awkwardness.
To begin with the defense mechanism which is an
unconscious psychological mechanism that reduces
anxiety arising from unacceptable or
potentially harmful stimuli.
On the other hand, awkwardness is an emotional state
that is associated with mild to severe levels of discomfort,
and which is usually experienced when someone has
a socially unacceptable circumstances.
But when we actually find ourselves arrested in some
embarrassing situation we don’t exactly feel awkward.
Initially, it is our defense mechanism that outweighs our feeling of awkwardness.
In other words, here you understand the situation is going out of your hand but, your defense mechanism
takes the whole control over your mind and your brain concentrates more on tackling the situation.
But, When do we really experience awkwardness?
Can you just brainstorm some embarrassing moments.
Yes! you got it.
When we recall our past social events that were uncomfortable to deal with, This is a feeling when you say Why the hell I even remember it?
This is real awkwardness feeling.
Now, this is completely overtaken by your awkward feeling because you are just dealing with your own mind with the total absence of any sort of flight mechanism.
Even if your brain now knows this invisible nature you will even though unconsciously obey this.
So I pass the torch on to you, remember your real awkward moments now.